Ephesians 5:15-16 : See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
What exactly are relationship goals? Because I guess we tend to define the term superficially. It’s alright by all means, but I think it means much deeper than a hashtag or uploading a cute little picture with your forever love.
For me, relationship goals are God goals and they spread their tentacles and roots deeper than just having a zillion selfies.
God has wired us intrinsically with a need to belong. The Holy Trinity exemplifies the working power of a relationship; being One.
Relationships are powerful. Too powerful. If you don’t believe me, look at the greatest plague around us. What does it revolve around? Relationships.
Look at the scarred hearts or those venting out in bitterness. The biggest cut skews towards relationships.
They can can be a source of tremendous pleasure and joy, yet at the same time, they can be a source of great pain.
Here is the beating heart of this devotional in one sentence: You can protect your future by living circumspectly. In other words, in living carefully right now. Living right.
That’s really the idea of the save the date cards, right? We send them out when we get married to let people know the date of our wedding so that they can protect it or ‘save’ it, to make sure there will be no conflict when it comes.
That’s what this is all about—protecting the future by living carefully now.
What Paul is saying in this scripture is that we are to be mindful of time, knowing that the days are short. We are to apply wisdom in life’s choices. We are to live circumspectly.
Life is whizzing by. In the blink of an eye, the future will be here.
Here’s the part you need to know now: When the future comes, if you don’t like it, you’ll only have yourself to thank because you are one who created it. You have the power to create your tomorrow by choosing what to do with your now.
Expectation determines experience. The negative or positive belief we hold about the future can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I think relationships are one of those areas that can be all too easy to walk into with unreasonable expectations. As a result, we are almost guaranteed to be let down. What kind of unreasonable expectations? Here’s a few:
- Being loved will make me whole
Wrong. If you look for your fountains in a person, you will find yourself constantly let down and perpetually lonely.
Only God can live up to those standards.
News flash! Physical things will never quench spiritual desires.
- I can have stability without a firm foundation.
You can’t build your life on sand and have the comfort and security of building it on stone.
Jesus said it in Matthew 7. Sand or concrete. What are we building on? Some build on chemistry.
They say, “When we’re around each other, sparks just fly.” I remember Chemistry class—and baby girl—sometimes things blew up.
Attraction, common interests, money—it’s all sinking sand. Are you building on a foundation that can handle hurricane winds?
- I can make progress without effort.
Great relationships are not turnkey or maintenance free. We have to put blood, sweat, and tears into our relationships.
Your marriage “isn’t working”? It’s probably because you’re not either or you ignored counsel once upon a time. If you approached your job with the same work ethic you exemplify in your marriage, would you still have a job?
Protect your future by living carefully right now.
If a red flag is suspected by those whom you are walking with, believe them. Take a pause, re evaluate, rethink, redo if you may, or run away before vowing into a long life commitment.