“Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.”
Is your husband known for your good work(s) and prudence, or he is known for having a bickering wife, with no control and super obnoxious?
You are directly correlated to your husband’s successes or failures, no doubt about that.
For that man to be known in the gates, where the elders sit, he must have been highly regarded. His wisdom was unmatched. His counsel was much needed. He was a man full of dignity, a man with knowledge and understanding.
Here goes the jugular: Mrs. You can add to your husband’s reputation or destroy it. The choice is yours. Let me say this, if you become like a leaking faucet, or the sun that that scorches the wayfarer, your husband will retreat to the corner, just as the Bible says.
His work will be his best friend or simply replace you with something else that is more pleasant to him.
Clearly, this Proverbs 31 woman doesn’t allow anything to take her place.
His cheerful countenance is enough to preach to the whole world that he has a good, agreeable wife at his bosom. He is one happy man.
It is said in many quarters that the worth of a man can be assessed by his choice of a wife.
This man has chosen wisely, he is not like many men that have their tempers sadly soured by their life at home, ESPECIALLY BY THE WIFE trust me! So choose wisely. When finding a wife, open your eyes, but more so your spiritual eyes. For the choice you make for a wife, will make a direct impact on your life.
Ask yourself, how will she handle lack?
How will she handle success?
How will she handle you handicapped? – Physical or figuratively speaking?
How will she handle you when you have been laid off?
In the New Testament, Paul clearly stipulates that if a man does not have order in his home, then he cannot take care of the church of God.
I couldn’t agree more!
Ist Timothy 3:5
One (the elder) that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
Is your husband known for your good works(s) or for your nagging nature?
She maketh fine linen, and selleth [it]; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
This virtuous woman is prudent, industrious, ingenious and active for the good of her family. She looks well after their welfare.
Just like the ant, she builds up her nest in summer, when she is strong, so that when the snow comes, she has no fear whatsoever – for her household are clothed in scarlet because of her diligent provisioning.
Like the ant, she prepares ahead.
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She sees through her “wise eyes.” She makes sure of today’s provisioning but also she prepares for tomorrow, trusting in the Lord and applying that trust with her busy hands.
Strength and honor [are] her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come
She is a godly woman. She is clothed with strength and dignity. She is without guile and there is nothing in her nature that debases her character. She is clothed with strength (both of character and resolve), honor, and gentleness.
Strength and dignity are HER appropriate gown. She is not a woman who brings shame to her society or her family.
Of course there are disappointments in life, but she is a woman who has known where her strength comes from. She doesn’t rely on herself, but on the Lord God almighty. She doesn’t not fret, her heart is not turbulent.
The peace of God that surpasses all human understanding is what keeps her as calm as a glassy sea. She reflects on the goodness of the Lord, casting all the worries of life and cares to the Lord because she knows the Lord cares for her.
Do the worries of life take a toll on you, or have you learnt to rely on the Lord God? Trust me, it is not easy to just let go of control.
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Personally, it has been a daily walk with Christ. Learning that I cannot control everything, and I need to let the Lord carry those burdens for me.
A wise woman learns that. A wise woman, moves in that direction – being perfected everyday by God’s unbridled grace! A wise woman believes only in the Lord. In Christ alone should your hope be found.
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue [is] the law of kindness.”

Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. You are what you speak.
Our talk goes a long way in telling the kind of people we are, our values, our interests and what we believe in.
The Proverbs 31 woman talk is not vain. It is wise, gentle, full of counsel, wisdom and knowledge from above.
Am sure as a human being, she too has weaknesses, but, she has learnt to ride high on her strength(s). She knows the power of her tongue and her words.
She’s careful when talking. Weighing her words carefully before uttering anything that could cause discord.
Your tongue can either bless or curse.
Some of us curse our jobs all day, we curse our husbands and their jobs, our children, our progress, our country, our brothers and sisters, our jobs, our bosses, our marriage, we are full of negative talk every day!!
How were you during this electioneering period?
How was your talk?
Who did you abuse and who did you gloat to?
I spoke a while ago about LOVE YOUR SPOUSE CHALLENGE, after I saw how some married women deciding not to participate in it because “marriage is not perfect!”, castigating those who did! Sad for those with such a parochial attitude!
So I ask again, what is perfect in this world? What is seamless, that needs no effort to bear fruits? Nothing is! Marriage itself has it’s own troubles but you cannot dwell in negativity everyday, all day!
If you find yourself too negative about something – retreat back, take a rain check on your heart : For we easily lash out, yet there’s something deeper in us that we haven’t addressed.
The beauty of marriage is soaring together during the turbulent times and riding together in the tempestuous sea of life.
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We need to change and learn to speak life into everything we have.
So yeah! Marriage is not perfect, but it’s beautiful. A godly woman, knows how to be discreet. She is not irrational or obnoxious. She knows when to talk, how to talk and when to hold her tongue.
She is not idle, and her talk has much prudence and purpose. She doesn’t ramble out!
The law of love and kindness is written in the heart, but manifests in her tongue.
Her words are right, in wisdom and kindness, and they command respect, and acquiescence!
She delights herself in the Lord and in Word of God, which she delights to talk of among her children and servants. She is full of pious religious discourses, and manages it prudently.
She is careful with her tongue, are you?
Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
#marriageworks #Godspeed


We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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