PSALM 23- VERSE 3
He refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake.
Nobody had told me that it was going to be this hard. I had wrestled with my husband for long that I had no energy left anymore. Our marriage was at the edge of the cliff staring right at what was inevitable.
I was done, he was one, we were done.
As I knelt at our cold bathroom floor, crying and wailing buckets, I felt His presence right there with me. Yes, Jesus loves those in messy marriage, and that is why He invites the weary, the burdened, the burdened, the broken, the lost, the overlooked, the disillusioned, the disgruntled, the hurt, those betrayed to His pastures.
He needed me to need him enough. Enough to say, “Lord, I cannot control me, I cannot him, I cannot us, we need your able hand.”
God does lead people, God wants to restore your marriage, but it’s not as automatic as we think. We need to pant for the waters of righteousness as a thirsty deer pants – Psalm 42:1. Lest we are so casual about it, the paths of righteousness are the ONLY paths upon which Jesus leads us. Not what the world says about wives, not what culture says and dictates to men, what Jesus says about this beautiful institution that is a poster of the reality to come.
His paths, govern every circumstance, and in every issue of life, especially issues in marriages. You have a choice to follow Christ and what He says regarding the sacredness of a marriage covenant, or follow your own self, retreat into your own thoughts and ways and harden your heart towards His clarion call.
We live, each and every day knowing that that God is absolutely sovereign and in all things and is at work to display his glory for the enjoyment of his people. Marriage is the one place He works for His glory, for His name sake and for our enjoyment too.
Was my attitude any better than the demands for change I placed on my husband? No!
Christ was not calling me anything, but to lead ME in His paths of righteousness. To be the crown I ought to be, to my husband.
What does this do to you, you ask? It changes everything. Your marriage seeks to bring you closer to the author of marriage if you let Him to.
If we quit flirting with the world and stick to His timeless Truth about His divine intention in our marriages, then we will know His paths of righteousness and His name will be glorified. His paths are His paths of love since He does everything out of love. It’s His essence not an effect of His present disposition. He is moved by not only compassion but by a covenant made through His son Jesus Christ.
That is the direction we have to stand on.
If we want to fulfill our destiny, if our marriages have to reflect Christ, we will need to travel in fellowship with Jesus. He will help us along this journey, he will be there to help us when we get into trouble, He will be there to help us enjoy the journey.
“You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.” Psalm 16:11.