Philippians 3:17-19 : Brethren, join in following my example, and note those who so walk, as you have us for a pattern. For many walk, of whom I have told you often, and now tell you even weeping, that they are the enemies of the cross of Christ: whose end is destruction, whose god is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame— who set their mind on earthly things.

I remember reading this verse one day in my quiet moments after my ultimate surrender to Christ. I gave up controlling my dating life and simply put it all at the cross. I was ready to go along the long stretch for Jesus. I was done pleasing people. I was done conforming. I was done trying so hard to be loved and be accepted.

I was done. All I wanted was Jesus. No boyfriends, no dates, no coffees, just Jesus.I hope you get to reach that apex of contentment. It felt so liberating. . . only for the Lord to change the plot and beyond.

Lo and behold! A fine brother stood at my library desk. Was I going to follow this new found joy or was the Lord leading me again in His plan? I had to step back and seek clarity, and more so, peace.

if you don’t have the peace of God as your guarding factor in a particular decision, then, I would strongly advice against going that way. Remember what the Lord says, in Colossians 3:15, “Let peace be your umpire.”

Relationships need dilatory decisions. Slow cooked and simmered. More so, they needed to be peaceable with the Lord. Peace is like an umpire that decides what is “safe” or what is “out.” If there’s no peace, it’s “out”!

We are to let the inner harmony in our minds and souls rule and act as an umpire continually in our hearts, deciding and settling with finality all the questions that arise in our minds and the decisions we must make in our lives, especially in regards to relationships.

It’s not rocket science that if you follow someone, you will end up where they are going. Right huh?

In the years I have lived, I’ve found that the most important things, and the easiest things to miss, are often the simplest as well. Say like time with your spouse or with your children?A walk with your spouse? Taking your son to the barber shop, or your daughter to the salon?

They sound simple, that we tend to downplay them, yet they make the biggest imprints.

Who you date impacts your life. Who you hang out with affects your future. The people you call “squad”, spend your time with, and communicate with, have an influence on your life and will directly impact the course of it, whether you choose to believe it or not.

The Bible says this in 1st Corinthians 15:33 , “Bad company corrupts good character.”

Choose to follow people living in sin, you will end up in sin. Choose to follow a person with fledgling spirit, you will end up lukewarm. You don’t need to jump straight into the deadly sea of sin, you simply need to board, and the tide will begin drifting away, unaware. By the time you startle yourself awake, your destiny will have been swept away by the riptides.

I’m talking to you. You who have allowed the wrong people to speak into your life for far too long. You who is afraid to break free from the so called “squad.” You who are so desperate for approval and acceptance, that you will sell your soul and dignity for a penny’s worth.

You with a crew you’re getting high with. You with a boyfriend you’re sleeping with. You with a girlfriend you are sleeping with. You chatting and flirting with a married man. You preying on married women. The group you’re so intoxicated with.

I get it—you don’t want to be unloving—but when you put them in a place where they can take something from your calling, you’re not loving them, you’re not loving yourself, and you’re not loving God. You are actually destroying yourself first.

So often we think, “How can I be a good witness if I sever ties with someone that needs Jesus?” I would ask you this: How can you be a good witness with them if the things that you’re doing aren’t glorifying God? Most times, our actions have a much louder noise.

It’s not just who you don’t follow, it’s who you do. It’s who you intentionally place yourself under to be influenced by. Some of us are so intoxicated by celebrities. We worship them, want to be like them. Dress like them. Do what they do.

We plan out our things against their programs. We follow their challenges blindly. We worship their shadows. Tag them in our posts. . .yet some of them operate under a different power, a different realm. Most of them, are simply empty and require the masses to assert their need to belong.

Why not challenge yourself against the Word? Against the virtues of Christ?

Paul says, “Follow me as I follow Christ”.

Ask yourself, are the people you’ve allowed on board of your life passionately following Jesus? Are there people you are following either physically, or on social media that you need to cut off, simply because following them cuts down your zeal for Christ?

If not, then we are following them unto destruction as Phillipians 3:19 says.

Our eyes must be fixed on Jesus. Not friends, not Celebrities, not the set trends, not our culture, following Jesus, our leader.

He will lead us, guide us, and give us the strength to run the race set before us.

His path is right, His yoke is light. You can never go wrong with Jesus! He will give you discernment especially in the area of relationships. Counterfeits will not have your destiny. The devil will not have your divine assignment.




We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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