Am honestly ashamed by the level of hypocrisy in the church. No wonder we lack flavor in the things we do.

By church I mean both the ecumenical and at the individual level.

Can I tell you some truths?

The TRUTH is when people think about relationships, they hardly think about Christian couples. Think about it seriously. I know – most people grew admiring the people outside the church more.

Christian couples looked quite boring, passive, some, even now, some hardly sit next to their spouses. They hardly exchange glances or talk, they hardly laugh with each other, just stone faced. It makes you wonder, is marriage this much of a burden?

Yet we are to be salt of the earth. We are meant to be the ones who add flavor to the earth, not the other way round – and do you know why? It’s not that we think about SEX too much, but we value it too little to give it the weight it deserves.

The viral video has just unmasked the church and it’s time to talk about things. The church needs to pull down its cloak and face the world with the truth about SEX.

The TRUTH is God is not prissy about SEX. He is not ashamed about it and he doesn’t go hush on matters SEX. He put a whole erotic book about SEX and says “I have breathed it, read it!” The Word shows that SEX is not an evil that marriage permits, but a gift that marriage gifts, blooms and protects. So why are we acting all touchy about the topic?

Where else is the safest place for the young to hear about SEX except in the church?

The TRUTH is that God talks about SEX to a level that we would be personally uncomfortable about it if He were to reveal the detailed plans about His beautiful creation.

Song of Solomon is such a beautiful picture of love a between a man and a woman. Yes, it’s not just Agape, but there is Eros. Pure unadulterated Eros.

The TRUTH is that SEX is beautiful and it’s in the open. Let’s not pretend that our children do not know. I love what my hubby said yesterday as were discussing about this. He said, “they only act dumb around adults” but they know.

Unfortunately, the world yells louder than the Church. Most are getting the perverted view of it. The Devil loves to pervert every pleasure that God created. He doesn’t say that sex is bad, he twists every TRUTH and says, “why not try it out, I mean, God is quite mean to restrain you now, so enjoy!”–and He is not going to stop it. That’s his goal. To have a shelf full of hearts broken and scarred by the consequences of SEX.

The TRUTH is that if we don’t echo the spiritual realities of the gospel, the world will warp them to the young people, the singles, the teens, our pre-teens and our children. We are not to be silent but be vocal in telling all and sundry that God’s pleasures are most enjoyed within His boundaries and the environment that He places us in – in marriage.

This video should have stirred a deeper conversation than just Christians saying that it should have been in a couples’ seminar or workshop. Of course it was in a couples’ seminar. But what if the person who got his video had every intention to force us to “talk” about what most cultures, tem as taboo? Sadly, it sipped in the church. The preaching. “Save sex for marriage, don’t do it.” The whys…. are not talked about.

The TRUTH is, as we are busy saying that it’s a couples, your child gets into a matatu with a big screen and has songs with nude ladies who are definitely engaging in some subtle or overt titillation and men who are groping them without any restraint. The songs are not censored. The radio shows are not censored, and trust me, they get my ears itchy! So why are we holding the placard up saying, “It should not be viral?”

The TRUTH is, SEX has been used to sell everything and at every corner, we are bombarded by sexual images.

The TRUTH is whether we like it or not, times have changed, and technology had breed a society with a culture of immediacy. We do not appreciate the process of growth and this is growing, we cannot wish it away.

So the tools that God gives us is to train up our children in the way of the Lord.

Training isn’t limited to education, or attitudes, but also life skills. No wonder we have very many dysfunctional relationships sealed up to into dysfunctional marriages. A man, hasn’t not been taught about pursing a lady well and leading her well before marriage – so he is passive.

A lady hasn’t been taught about the place of “submission” before marriage, so she follows a man blindly –in the name of love.

The TRUTH is God is God who is all creative and fun. Marriage doesn’t give you a platform to simply sit pretty. You got to pursue each other and definitely SEX has got to be creative too. God isn’t a spoil spot! He wants a husband and a wife to experience the best sexual fulfillment and He boldly paints a picture of it in the Word! It’s a bare faced rejoicing in the delights of sexual love in marriage. When you stop flirting or teasing each other in marriage, you will definitely ground upon the sand shores of apathy!

2nd Timothy 3:16 – 17 reminds us that ALL scripture is God breathed andprofitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for instruction in righteousness, that each person who belongs to God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.

One of the good works of GOD is the total enjoyment and fulfillment of sexual love in marriage. I believe God stands up and cheers when you both get down in your kitchen, or car, or the bathroom or your couch or the carpet!



We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!


  • Ann

    Beautiful,I love reading through your articles.keeps my hope alive that in God s perfect time he will restore my marriage and give me a God fearing husband and shower us with knowledge how to do marriage like he designed it.
    Go girl,you are always a blessing.

    • Mary Munene

      May the Lord hear your prayer! Praying for you! I am so encouraged that you still believe in the power of marriage. God bless you so you!

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