Children are a heritage from God.
“As arrows in the hand of a mighty man, so are the sons of the young.
Blessed is the man who has his quiver full of them; they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.” Psalm 127:4-5.
Archery is one of the oldest tactics of war.
With great strength, arrows were directed towards the enemy and woe to the recipients if they have not shielded themselves.
A classic example is that of King Saul who was hit by the archers and could not take it any more.
Arrows are lethal.
Blessed is the man who has his quiver ful of them.
As arrows in the quiver, so are children in a home.
When the parents grow old and cannot defend themselves, the children (arrows) will speak and defend the family at the gates.
The family legacy is held by its inheritors, the children.
Dynasties are sustained by the children.
The converse is true.
When an archer is about to shoot an arrow, he has to use the right bow.
Concentration is key.
He aims at the target, creates enough tension at the bowstring, takes a deep breathe, breathes out and with precision, releases the arrow.
He follows through to see if the target has been hit.
The manner in which you release your fingers from the bowstring can impact the arrow’s flight, and any unintended flinches or wobbles can knock it off course.
As archery is to a hunter, so is proper shepherding of a child’s heart to a parent.
Masterly is key.
You can’t afford to lose concentration.
With a clear vision, a child’s heart is steered in the right direction.
With patience, good temperament and sober judgement, a son is raised.
A parent ought to be busy mastering the art of parenting.
This is not devoid of mistakes here and there but positive attitude and focus will get you there.
When we delegate this role to third parties, the arrows might fall short of the target or off the target entirely. Affliction is in the horizon of those who do this.
The target must be visible and achievable.
No skillful archer shoots aimlessly.
Firstly, knowing that you are shepherding a child on behalf of God is very important.
You are just a custodian of a beautiful soul but just for a moment.
Ask the ‘owner’ how He would like His children to be brought up.
Don’t do it on your own.
You will fail in the process.
Teach them the ways of the heavenly Father while still young.
Show them how to love, live and let live.
Show them the way by walking in it.
Guide them with discernment and understanding.
Let them flourish under your roof, not provoking them to anger.
A wise parent knows when to hold, stretch and release their children.
Holding them too much will make immature kids, who cannot stand on their own or make sound decisions.
Releasing them too early will lead to unfulfilled lives, for they were not wholesomely guided and given enough thrust.
But like I said, it’s an art and its masterly is of essence.
I know sometimes you will feel like you are not doing it right. We all do sometimes. But don’t stop there. Learn to undo your wrongs with the consequent engagements.
Make hay while the sun shines.
It’s never too late to make up for the lost time.