To receive your spouse’s ideas as information to you rather than an opinion that you must take and change asap, makes it easier to understand and accept each other.
It doesn’t mean that his ideas will be yours, or hers will yours as a husband, and you need not agree on everything. You are both different, know that you will never agree on everything.
To eliminate the vicious cycle of misunderstandings, in marriage, one needs to develop that art of listening.
It’s not automatic and that’s why there needs to be a deliberate choice to grow. To mature, to be better.
It means that you will put down the guards that simply spin you off to your defenses, give undivided attention by removing all distractions – TV, mobile phones, house chores, even kids, and assume a posture that says, “I care” through your body language by maintaining an eye contact.
Listening to them means that you give them the freedom to hold those ideas, express themselves in a way that they feel cared for, and this meets an intrinsic need.
A need for that says “I value you.” A need for affection and affirmation.
Remember love is not SELF- SEEKING. *(1st Corinthians 13:4) *
#marriageworks
#Godspeed
It doesn’t mean that his ideas will be yours, or hers will yours as a husband, and you need not agree on everything. You are both different, know that you will never agree on everything.
To eliminate the vicious cycle of misunderstandings, in marriage, one needs to develop that art of listening.
It’s not automatic and that’s why there needs to be a deliberate choice to grow. To mature, to be better.
It means that you will put down the guards that simply spin you off to your defenses, give undivided attention by removing all distractions – TV, mobile phones, house chores, even kids, and assume a posture that says, “I care” through your body language by maintaining an eye contact.
Listening to them means that you give them the freedom to hold those ideas, express themselves in a way that they feel cared for, and this meets an intrinsic need.
A need for that says “I value you.” A need for affection and affirmation.
Remember love is not SELF- SEEKING. *(1st Corinthians 13:4) *
#marriageworks
#Godspeed
Mary Munene
We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!
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