As I conclude this, there’s one powerful power at our disposal, the devil knows it too well, no wonder he will try by all means to keep us from it.
The power of prayer.
As much as every other tool is effective in marriage, they all stem out from this.
Prayer begets every other tool. Prayer begets the power of encouragement, the power of submission, the power to allure, the power of praise, the power to shield and the power to comfort.
Philippians 4:6 says
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
From the ancient of times, until the present day, prayer is not only powerful and undeniably the strongest tool in the world, but it’s a dangerous tool, more so to the enemy.
Prayer overthrows demonic kingdoms against us.
Prayer protects us in trouble. Prayer pulls us towards God’s will.
Prayer directs our paths. Prayer pulls down strongholds.
Prayer vanquishes sophisticated thoughts and arguments. Prayer raises altars.
Prayer destroys and scatters wicked plans and evil cohorts.
Prayer puts God to task, but more so, Prayer changes a heart that prays and the one being prayed for.
Romans 12:2 says,
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Prayer transforms any preconceived mindset! Rarely is prayer directional to one side. It cuts both ways.
I remember when I got married, I have spoken about this so many times. I understood the power of prayer in changing someone else, more so in changing a spouse’s heart, but I didn’t know that in the process, mine too could be transformed.
I really thought Johnny had a calloused heart and a wrong attitude, but rarely was my heart inclined to seeing my weaknesses too. I was blind to my indignations. We pressed on to our marriage sets of conditions and thought that’s what we needed.
We criticized each other, huffed and puffed onto each other at any given point. Scolded each other, reading each other the “riot act” and what consequences it carried once broken. We listed against each other sets of oughts’ and ought nots’. We were two exhausted human beings. Not really leaning onto the power of prayer hard enough.
We went selfishly before the Lord, begging the Lord to change the other person.
I prayed selfishly, I prayed bitterly, until the Lord asked me to change first. I can attest to you that it was one long journey of battling with my conscience and the nagging feeling that the Holy Spirit kept pressing on me and in me. It wouldn’t go away – until I surrendered.
Prayer, changes hearts but it begins with the heart of the petitioner, first. Prayer changes you before it changes your spouse.
That’s the kind of prayer am talking about.
The kind of prayer that lays it all down and surrenders. The prayer that asks earnestly, unselfishly, with no pegged conditions, just a broken and contrite heart.
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The kind of prayer that is not haughty, but humble and never legalistic. [1 Peter 5:6]
Am talking about the prayer that lays down all the expectations, selfish ambitions, desires, claim to power and control and passes the hard cradled button to Christ – that kind of surrender!
There is so much we can talk about prayer, but today, I am choosing to talk about the power of prayer in changing your husband as it changes you too. Nothing chafes out a calloused heart faster than prayer. Nothing changes the attitude of the heart better than prayer.
Yes, I know It’s hard to pray for a husband whom you are justified by all means to be mean to, after all, he deserves nothing retribution.
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But in the course of my marriage, I have found prayer to be more than what churchy people should do. It is the lifeblood of any marriage. It is the indispensable factor that gives marriage its strength and vitality. In short, prayer changes you, and keeps you.
It keeps your marriage, it strengthens your hearts and trains your hands to war!
Well Mrs., Prayer changed my heart – and when my heart changed, my perspective changed. I saw my husband through the eyes of Christ.
And I know, that Christ changed him too, because only them that behold Christ, radiate His beauty.
I handed Him over to Christ. Christ did the pummeling for me!
Prayer is not about making demands to God. That he should change your husband and change him…or else. Prayer is a request to the Lord, with humility. He does what He does, at His own time and pace.
God answers prayers, but He may not answer in our way. For me, His answer was – change your attitude first, and consequently, this led me to pray, “Lord, change me first.” We may want our prayers to be answered in the way we want, but God doesn’t work that way.  Trust me, the Lord answers, but His answers are never skewed to one direction. The Lord has always the biggest picture in mind- far reaching than our human minds could conceive.
When was the last time you prayed fervently for your husband? For your marriage? For your heart to be submissive? For your heart to love and yield without being coerced? For your heart to be filled with the heart of service – a servanthood spirit in you?
There’s is power in prayer and more so, a woman who prays!
Get down on your knees on behalf of your family!  Pray!
Prayer changes your spouse, but more so, it changes your heart, your mind and your spirit. When all those change, then it becomes an igniting factor to your spouse.
As you spend more time with Christ, His fragrance not only fills you, but infuses in you. He teaches you His ways. He teaches your spirit, and instructs your mouth and lips on what to say and what not to say.
His voice becomes clearer in the tumult and clamor of the world.
The lord is asking us today, to be the willing factors in our marriages. To be the contact point of His unbridled and implausible grace, unbounded and reckless love, heart-changing refining fuel in our marriages through fervent prayer and supplication.
To live an exchanged life with our savior – where we lay down our lives in prayer for our marriages and families. Exchanging our sorrow for His joy, our weaknesses for His strength, our failures for His success, our debt for His freedom, our confusion for His clarity, our bewildered minds for His voice of reason.
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He is asking us today to exchange our burdens for His yoke, our shame for His dignity, our ashes for His beauty, our restlessness for His rest and our battered hearts for His peace.
None of the above can be fully accomplished in our lives without prayer.
It’s at the feet of Jesus, where we find our rest.
A praying wife is dangerous to the enemy! Too dangerous to play with more so with her marriage and family!

We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!


  • Irene

    Yes, true. Prayer is the most powerful tool.It has impacted my marriage and I’ll continue using it to the end.Thankyou

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