The Sanctification of Marriage

I tend to spread myself all over the bed. My husband has gotten used to my toes touching his mouth occasionally -pun intended – am not so bad.

He on the other hand, can coil down the whole duvet. It doesn’t take you long to realize it because the night suddenly becomes too cold. Hollywood doesn’t show a pin drop of the realities of marriage. Let’s be honest—it is often harder to tolerate a bad habit than a bad sin. Right? You know those weirdo kind of habits like having a spouse who moves like a sloth, making some chewing sounds while chewing, or the “pulling sound” when sipping tea or coffee or porridge.

It’s only when you stay close enough to someone for a while, that you tend to see their little bent edges.The list isn’t exhaustive but each of us has our sins, each of us also has our quirks, our preferences, our idiosyncrasies, and our annoyances. But I have found that in marriage, our sanctification doesn’t just happen when we point out each other’s flaws, or when we assume the position of Mr and Mrs. standard of life.

Personally, the growth trajectory in God and in holiness, and in sanctification happened and still happens more when I choose to learn, to accept and perhaps even embrace some of those non-moral but oh-so-annoying things my husband does —those eccentricities and matters of preference.So perhaps the foremost way that marriage has helped make us holy is not so much in calling each of us to serve as the other’s second conscience, a junior assistant to the Holy Spirit in bringing conviction of sin. It is not in calling each of us to be a kind of moral sandpaper to actively scour off each other’s rough edges.

Rather, marriage has helped make us holy by calling each of us to extend a kind of divine mercy toward the other—to simply live lovingly with someone who is prone to be sinful and just plain hard to live with. In marriage, God allows us to see one another as we really are, then to accept one another as we really are—as holistic human beings who are a mixture of holy and depraved, grownup and immature, wonderful and almost unbelievably annoying. Very annoying.

Marriage makes us holy not just in compelling us to identify and confront sin in the other, but also in calling us to bear patiently with another person’s sin, preferences, and bad habits. In other words, marriage makes us holy in the way it calls us to be like God in overlooking offenses, in imparting mercy, in extending forgiveness, in displaying compassion, in refusing to be petty. This said, the great sanctifying challenge of marriage is not so much to fix one another, as to imitate Christ.

1st Corinthians 13:7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.❤

We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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