But arrogant fools despise [skillful and godly] wisdom and instruction and self-discipline.
The arrogant man is her next victim.
This is a man who knows what he has to do, man who has heard the word of the Lord, has heard enough counsel, corrected, guided through, but rejects the counsel.
Why? He’s too opinionated and haughty. Conceited of of course. He has an attitude of primacy and dominance. He is self-entitled, narcissistic and believes that he is always right!
He carries around an air of superiority, “What are you telling me?” kind of look. His body language speaks boldly saying “I have got it all covered!” He’s a man who believes in his own abilities just like the foolish man.
This is a man who is too full of himself and overbearing. With those characteristics, one might think he is too far-fetched for a strange woman, yet those characteristics are her perfect nesting place.
Samson had a level of arrogance and Delilah ensnared him.
Arrogance is not a strength; it is a weakness. The devil is too cunning. A better schemer than all of us. Men of valor can only defeat him by the power of the blood of Jesus and by the word of their testimonies!
You have to come down from your high pedestal and accept that someone could know something that you don’t. Someone could be better placed in a position of guiding, and correcting you.
Spiritual pride has also a level of arrogance. Salvation doesn’t make you immune to sin. We live by the grace of God.
This arrogance is what drives most men into thinking that they “have it all figured out!”
“It’s a casual chat”, a friendly date, a lunch date perhaps, but the devil has already decked his cards right, ready for a domino effect.
A chat, a date, an excuse to your wife, a picky attitude, and suddenly the avalanche happens. She’s more captivating than the wife of your youth. She’s more understanding than the wife of your youth. She’s better placed than your wife. Yet in all this, your arrogance looped you into the devil’s crockpot.
Look Mister, you have to tell her, “No!”
She won’t die if you address her by her name, not pet names. Cut off the little “hey hey” chats! Put your wife out boldly like the Proverbs 31 man. Tag your wife along in your social places. Walk with a godly man who won’t sooth or try gloss over your transgressions. A man who will challenge your masculinity towards godliness and purity.It’s that simple and direct if you are married.
If you are still single, you have to state your mission straight up before flirting blurs up your fine print. Accept that you are on a learning mission and you might not know everything. Walk with a man who sets up the godly picture of a man.
A man who has born the fruit of self control, love, perseverance, endurance and still presses on towards his calling. A man who is real, vulnerable but still fruitful and faithful.
You have to put clear, firm and concise boundaries with her! Otherwise, her smooth talk will soon slide you into her trap!
Not forgetting to heed to godly counsel!
Accept to be corrected, accept accountability.
Proverbs 1:23 says,
If you will turn and pay attention to my rebuke, Behold, I [Wisdom] will pour out my spirit on you; I will make my words known to you.