“The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” 1 John 4:8 (NASB)
True love: quite possibly the most beautiful, powerful, amazing, confusing, misapplied, and overused words ever spoken.
We’ve witnessed our fair share of fiery romances, whether through Hollywood movies or the addictive Telemundo channels. But romance — as romantic as it may be — is not even half of true love. Eros, the Greek word for romantic love, is only one of four types of love. There’s also storge, the family bond; philia, friendship; and agape, unconditional love.
I’m not sure anything in life is better than loving and being loved.
Yet look around — “love” is a mess! A skyrocketing divorce rate, people hating on marriage, family members who virtually hate each other, friendships unfriended into enemies, and … unconditional love?
Oh please, there are always strings attached.
See, people often see love as a contract:
I keep my side of the deal to be there for your needs, only if you keep your side of the deal to be there for my needs. If not, See ya — I’m outta here.
Even now, ask a lady who can forbear in marriage where the husband has been sacked and she has to bear the burden of provision – very few will oblige without conditions.
Ask a man to forebear in a marriage where the wife isn’t as attractive as she used to be due to childbirth and all, walk with her, love her through the seasons – very few remain faithful and true till the end.
Sad, startling, yet true. We’re left wondering, is true love even the truth? We’ve taken note of the many examples of selfish love — if we can even call it love — all around us, but the perfect example of true love is right under our noses — in our hearts, actually.
God’s love for you and me is passionate, pure and beyond anything we’ve ever experienced, accepting us as we are.
Our good, our sins, our past and our flaws are all bare before His eyes, yet being the perfect Gentleman and Father He is, He washes, changes, teaches and grows us tenderly. He reminds us of our worth and beauty as His daughters. He wants to forgive, bless and take care of us. He loves us with unconditional agape love.
Good news: His love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:8)
We too,can love like that — not in our own strength or willpower, but by the Holy Spirit perfecting God’s love in our hearts. (1 John 4:12) The deeper we know God and His arduous, purposeful love for us and for others, the easier we can love others as an act of loving obedience to God.
First John 4:20 tells it like it is: “If someone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen.” (NASB)
Of course. How can we defy God’s command to love the people He has placed in our lives and still claim to love Him? Our obedience to God’s Word comes from our love and reverence for Him who gave His all so we could keep on giving and loving like He has done for us.
It is only when we love God first and foremost that we can reach our full potential in loving others as our spouses, friends, sisters, sons, daughters, husbands, wives, fathers and mothers. As we grow in our love for God and in our knowledge of His love, we begin to change. We begin to see and love others differently.
In reality, true love happens when the stars don’t align, sparks dim and butterflies fly away.
Love happens when we sacrifice, knowing we’ll get nothing in return.
We are patient, kind, never envious or boastful, modeling 1 Corinthians 13 in our hearts and with our behavior without expecting payback or accolade. We lay down our lives in love.
Today’s key verse, 1 John 4:8 says, “The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” I hope you find true love. I hope you and I grow so close to God that we naturally begin to “love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith” (1 Timothy 1:5b, NASB). May you and I so overflow with God’s love that it runs up and over onto everyone we meet. His love will never fail, because God Himself is true love, and God never fails.